Trust Energy and Yourself

I realized at one point that most relationships I had gotten myself into were the result of the other person being into me, and me riding that wave. Next thing I knew, I was in a relationship that looking back, I sometimes don’t understand how it progressed so far, so rapidly. It can be so easy to get swept up by things and people outside of ourselves. The key is to cultivate an inner awareness and knowing that we learn to depend on. That way, we stay in our truth as we move through the world.

In my alignment with my own spirit, I am hyper aware of people’s energy. I can tell by a picture or a few messages from a person what kind of energy they’re bringing to the table. I’ve learned to trust people’s energy emphatically. It takes a lot of the guess work out of who I want to spend my time with, which then saves us all time. I no longer get myself into relationships with people based on their feelings for me. Instead, I pay attention to the energy between us.

As I’ve gotten better about staying true to myself and expressing myself more authentically, I have found that my energy is like a magnet. Often, people want to be around me. If I go on a date with someone, they always want more time with me. This isn’t an ego thing, it’s an energy thing. When people are living in their alignment, they understand that our energy is what is drawing us together. For people who aren’t yet aware of this invisible force, in my energy field, they’ll automatically think that we have a special connection unlike any other. But in alignment with my spirit, I am able to deeply connect with nearly everyone who crosses my path. I have long, interesting conversations frequently with a variety of people. I highly appreciate all of the connections I make with people. But I recognize that because most people aren’t living in alignment with their spirit, it’s up to me to be discerning about taking a relationship to the next level.

As humans, we can get so caught up in physical attraction, or the fact that someone is giving us positive attention that we can get ourselves into situations that aren’t always healthy for us. We’ve got to pay attention to how a person’s energy makes us feel. Are we excited when they text to hang out with us or do we find ourselves trying to come up with excuses to get out of it? Do we feel excitement and happiness or a sense of dread? We can also pay attention to feelings in our bodies when we say a person’s name. Do we feel light or heavy? Do we smile with happiness or feel a knot form in our stomach?

We are energetic beings living in an energetic world. We’ve all had the experience where a person’s looks, outward persona, and words were saying one thing, but their energy was giving off a completely different message. My old self bought into those things. If we want to go to the next level, we’ve got to place more importance on a person’s energy and how they make us feel rather than other outside things like their interest in us, their looks or financial stability. I have come to find that energy never lies, regardless of how smooth the person speaks. I even had the experience once where a person’s energy felt really off. I felt really uncomfortable about it, but couldn’t place my finger on why. A friend was insisting that I explain what the person was doing to make me feel that way, and all I could say was “nothing in particular, their energy isn’t matching their words.” Just after I had said those words, my friend was getting money out of an ATM, and I checked IG. The first thing in my feed read something like “if something feels off about a person or situation, it is. Trust your intuition. Energy doesn’t lie.” Messages from the universe don’t get more direct than that friends! It provided me with a little extra confirmation and I never hung out with that person again.

We’ve got to stop doubting ourselves, the energy we sense about situations and people, and the inspired ideas that are coming to us. We need to stop ignoring the signs and red flags. We never have to know or have proof beyond how something is making us feel. I don’t like the taste of coffee, and I’ve been told time and again how coffee is an acquired taste. People say how they didn’t like it at first, but now they love it. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s just not how I’m choosing to live my life. Sure I’ll do it with vegetables, because I know they’re good for me. But I’m not trying to acquire a taste for coffee, or beer, or a connection with someone where I sense something off about their energy. It’s just not needed in this day and age. We don’t have to acquire a taste for relating with someone who’s presence does not add goodness to our lives. There are plenty of other things I enjoy drinking, and there are over 7 billion people in the world to connect with. There’s no need to latch onto and cling to situations or people that don’t make us feel good, because there is a plethora of situations and people who will better match our energy and intentions.

We just need to slow down and get really good about paying attention to how things make us feel. We then follow the good feelings and nudges from our spirit (our intuition). The more we learn to quiet our minds and listen to the whisper of our intuition, the stronger our intuition becomes. In doing so, we move beyond the conditioning from our past, and line ourselves up with the best that life has to offer.

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Jammie

Shift Your Focus

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We aren’t taught that what we focus on grows, but it’s true. We do ourselves a MAJOR disservice when we continually run worst case scenarios and negative thoughts through our heads. When we get stuck in that repetitive cycle and add complaining to it, we literally become a giant magnet for more of what we don’t want. It’s why people who live their lives this way feel a sort of knowing that life sucks so bad. The negative things that keep happening in their lives keep reinforcing they’re beliefs. And they always want to tell everyone about it. They think of every terrible aspect of their life constantly, and so they manifest more negative situations to think and complain about. Then they’ll respond like “see, I told you life is horrible! Look at xyz that just got added to my pile of shit.” Truth is, they’re powerful creators and they’re manifesting everything in their life.

I was with someone who thought their family was cursed. While their family had suffered big traumas, their belief that they all had bad luck did not help them at all. Not only were they giving their power away by believing that something out there was throwing them more things to complain about, but they were constantly providing more energy to the belief that life was never easy for them.

Knowing that where I focus my energy literally creates my life, I am selective about my thoughts. It started with an awareness that my thoughts about myself and life were why I was suffering. Sure, things in my life at the time weren’t going as I would have liked. I felt stuck in California away from my family and I had done everything in my power to try and change it. Now all that was left was to accept my situation. I remember getting so annoyed with a woman I was working with, a sort of life coach, when she told me that I was right where I was supposed to be, because I was there. At the time, I didn’t feel like I was supposed to be here. So I fought that belief she introduced to me. But you know what? Eventually I discovered that she was right. We are all right where we need to be doing what we need to do. I am one of many in my community doing the important work of raising consciousness. I meet people all the time who are befuddled as to why they felt so compelled to move here. But I welcome them and thank them for coming, because I know the bigger picture as to why they have come. I feel it to my core.

Of course hind sight is 20/20. We have all experienced that. Even for me, I’ve had the feeling of “really? I needed to be in that relationship for 10 years to learn that lesson?” But I’ve had to accept that yes, it took me 10 years to learn, and that’s exactly what I needed to be doing then. We sometimes think we’re supposed to be in other places doing other things with different people, but what has been reinforced for me time and again over the last year and a half is that we are always right where we need to be.

The last year hasn’t just been about creating a new business and pushing and hustling to have it succeed. It’s been about cultivating peace in the unknown. It’s been about finally having the time and freedom to heal long-held wounds. It’s been about learning to follow and trust my intuition wholeheartedly so that I am always guided to my next inspired step. If I had been swooped up and flown from quitting my RN job in the hospital and straight into the current work I am doing, I would have missed the even more important journey of becoming the person I needed to be in order to do the things I’m currently doing. EVERY experience we have has value, even if we don’t see it at the time, or hind sight tells us that we’re stupid because we didn’t see the red flags. Life isn’t happening to us, it’s happening for us, mostly for our growth and expansion. We are also balancing out energies from past lives, dealing with traumas passed down through our family lines, and creating life from beliefs we locked in about ourselves and/or life from traumas during childhood. We don’t know the why of everything and our human minds aren’t what we need to figure that out. Sometimes we just have to accept where we’re at, and if we’re not happy, then strive to make changes.

If I told you that YOU are the powerful creator of your reality, what would you like to do? Starting setting intentions for how you want to feel in your life day to day. What kind of day do you intend to have today? Realize you have the power to focus on what you want. If you’re not living a life you love, start paying attention to where your focus is going. Fighting against something is the same as fighting for it, so be careful to direct your energy away from the thing you want to change and on what you hope will replace it.

The first things I tell everyone I work with to start doing is to keep a gratitude journal. I’ve seen how it has shifted my train of thought and focus in my own life. Writing down new things that I am grateful for every day allows me to stay in appreciation mode and out of lack, negativity, and complaining mode. It especially helped me when I was struggling with my work in the hospital, because it lifted me up and reminded me of all of the amazing things in my life. We are each so blessed. Like me, you’ve probably been taking the device you’re using right now and the WiFi you have access to in order to read this post. Let me tell you, when you don’t have WiFi at home, you learn to appreciate it. There is much that many of us take for granted every single day. But instead of giving thanks for what we DO have, we get stuck in a negative cycle of complaining about and focusing on what we DON’T have. Break the cycle, change your life for the better. You are the only one responsible for your reality. The sooner you internalize that, the sooner you can flip your script, stop giving your power away, get out of victim mode and thrive.

If you’re noticing that you’re stuck in time and repeating the same patterns, behaviors, and experiencing chronic issues of any kind, the Holographic Kinetics sessions that I do can really stand to help you. Holographic Kinetics is based on Dreamtime Healing of the aboriginal people in Australia and offers powerful healing at the spirit level. During a session with me (or a practitioner near you), you’re able to trace an issue back to its original cause and change the dimension of time, so that it stops affecting your life negatively. My own sessions during training have changed my life. I realize now that they helped me become who I needed to be in this now moment. I’ve noticed huge shifts in how I feel about myself and life, and that has caused me to make different decisions that have completely affected my path. If you’re interested, email me at peacefuljellyfish@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you!

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Jammie

Healing for the Spirit

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So much focus has generally been placed on the health of our bodies and minds, but not of our spirits. The well-being of our spirits is the missing link to why so much of what we’re doing is not working. At our core, we are energetic, spiritual beings having a human experience. When we neglect this fundamental aspect of ourselves, we lack holistic well-being.

According to the beliefs of the aboriginal people in Australia, it is our spirit that is with us in this life and all past lives that we have lived. We are multidimensional beings living in a multidimensional world, which means that nothing is as it seems to our limited five senses. My training to become a Practitioner in Holographic Kinetics in May, an advanced healing modality based on the Dreamtime Healing of the aboriginals in Australia, taught me so much about our spirits and the power of healing at the spirit level.

In my career as a Registered Nurse, I was taught that physical ailments primarily had physical causes. Because they couldn’t find a definitive cause, my doctors wanted to place their bets on my immune system being “over active” as the cause for my pericarditis. They liked to say that my immune system was ‘attacking itself’. But that was not the case AT ALL. In the end, I was found to have a multitude of infections associated with the bite from a deer tick. Plus, I tested positive for Valley Fever when tested in the hospital and no one ever told me or treated me for it. It took a thorough Lyme Disease specialist going through my records YEARS later to find that positive test result and prescribe treatment. So needless to say, my inflammation markers being through the roof and my pericardium being inflamed had definite reasons for being so that didn’t have anything to do with my immune system being the problem. My body was doing exactly what it was designed to do when it detected invaders to my system.

In my path back to my innate well-being, I have come to understand that there is much more to the causes of our physical and mental ailments than what we have been led to believe. For instance, I see a direct correlation between those of us who spent much of our lives putting other people first, while not taking good care of ourselves, and chronic, mystery illnesses. For me, it became apparent that the fact that I had stopped listening to my heart and my intuition had a direct impact on my heart. I have come to learn that most people seem to be dealing a lot with the consequences of not fully feeling their emotions as they come up. Louise Hays wrote books about this very thing, as have others. My training in Holographic Kinetics solidified this fact as we learned about how trauma and emotions can become crystallized in the body in the presence of stress and how this can lead to dis-ease in the body and become trapped also in our spirit.

I have come to learn that our minds and the way we perceive the world is what impacts our lives the most. When our minds tend towards the negative and we stew in negative emotions like anger, fear, shame, guilt, we start having physical ailments. I have seen how cleaning up my thoughts have allowed me to heal myself and transform my life.

I started by hitting a point where I noticed I was suffering, and I was tired of it. I began thinking that there had to be another way to live that didn’t involve me being miserable. I realized that I wasn’t talking very nicely to myself. When I made mistakes, I beat myself up for it. I still struggle with being my toughest critic when it comes to certain things. But overall, once I became aware of my negative self-talk, I could begin to shift it. I have learned that self-awareness is the key to creating lasting change. Shifting my self-talk to the positive was the first step. Instead of thinking I was stupid, because I messed up, I started to be proud of myself for trying. I began to use positive affirmations to feed my mind uplifting words daily. From there, I began noticing the stories of victimhood that I had been telling myself about things that had happened in my life. Instead, I looked for the divinity in those experiences and the lessons I had learned through them. I was guided to read books with the principle that as spirits, we in fact choose our families and plan out some bigger aspects of our lives before we incarnate. That was a concept that was entirely new to me. I was also reading many books related to other aspects of spirituality, and the power of our minds and the fact that our thoughts create our reality.

At this point in my journey, I can say without a doubt that by changing my thoughts, I have changed my life. In addition, I have done a lot of work to feel my emotions and release them as they come up. I pay attention to what I feed my body AND my mind in the way of what I read, watch, and listen to. Much of adulthood, I believe, is learning to feel and process our emotions as they arise vs getting overwhelmed and stuffing them deep down inside of us.

As I have experienced through my own Holographic Kinetics sessions and now through the sessions I have done with clients, the Cause of the issues affecting our lives right now stem from beliefs that we locked in, usually during childhood, about ourselves or about life at the spirit level. That belief isn’t something that we usually remember consciously, but it becomes locked in at the level of the spirit and we begin to create situations that prove that belief to be true. We only see what we believe. In this way, we create EVERYTHING in our lives, consciously or unconsciously. Most people are walking around unconsciously creating their lives. In the mindfulness I have cultivated in a variety of ways, I have become a conscious creator of my reality. In the places where I seemed to still be unconsciously creating, I was able to heal those issues through Holographic Kinetics. One of the issues I cleared during my own sessions was not feeling worthy of love. The Cause was found during my time in my Mother’s womb. By locking in the belief that I was not worthy of love, it set me up to create situations in which I did not feel worthy of love. In this life, we can only create that which we believe is true. If at the spirit level, we believe that we are not worthy of love, then life cannot show us situations that make us feel worthy of love.

At times, the Cause of an issue can be found during our childhood in this life. When we’re children, trauma can come in many forms, even from seemingly small things as perceived by our now adult minds, because as children, everything that happens can feel so large and important. Using Holographic Kinetics, in communication with a person’s spirit, it is possible to go back to the moment when a belief, related to an issue, was first created. We can then change that dimension of time, so that the Cause isn’t created and therefore the issue stops affecting a person’s current life and future lives. The healing that happens during a session extends back through a person’s ancestral line, as well as forward through the generations of descendants.

When a situation isn’t cleared after changing the dimension with the Cause in this lifetime, we explore and determine if the Cause that was activated in this life perhaps was originally created in a past life or somewhere within the genetic lines of either the Mother or the Father. I have had the personal experience of having my issues linked to multiple past lives as well as ancestors of mine who had locked in trauma that was getting passed down through the generations. If I ever doubted the concept of past lives and reincarnation, I definitely don’t now. I have seen places I have never been and experiences I’ve never had in this life.

The power of our minds is real. We don’t actually see with our eyes. We see what our brains allow us to see, usually based on our past experiences. We fill in the blanks of our current reality with our past. Our minds sift and filter everything around us, otherwise we would be even more overwhelmed by the stimuli that is constantly bombarding us, energetically and from our five senses. Our minds have a way of paying attention to the things around us that resonate with us personally. I tell my kids in my mindfulness classes that if we all take a walk down the street together, we would have very different experiences, because we would all notice different things. I might notice some flowers that were in my front yard as a kid. Someone else might notice a car their Mom has. None of us are ever experiencing the same reality. It’s why I’ve come to accept that no one else is ever going to truly understand me. As Esther and Jerry Hicks write in their book “Ask and It Is Given”, “Your current time-space reality, your current culture, your current ways of looking at things — all of the things that make up your perspective — have evolved over countless generations. In fact, it would not be possible to retrace all the desires, conclusions, and perspectives that have resulted in your unique point of view right here and now.”

It is important that we are all here right now. Each of us is needed or we wouldn’t be here. There is divine reason for EVERYTHING, even when our human minds can’t figure out what it could possibly be. It’s taking all of us to stand in our own power, to learn new ways of being as we learn to feel our feelings, stay present in our moments, and work to heal and release ourselves from our past. It is a combination of healing of the body, mind, and SPIRIT that leads us on a path back to our innate well-being. Well-being is our birthright. We can connect with it again when we connect with our own spirit.

If you’d like a deeper connection and healing at the spirit level, consider a Holographic Kinetics session with me. You can check out the first testimonials I have received from people I have already worked with HERE. It’s a powerful healing modality unlike any other I have encountered.

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Aligned and on My Path!

I had the BEST day yesterday!! This picture is a throw back to when my friend Jerrett Johnson and I danced with the lovely Diana Hurtado in her home, but it really captures the joy I feel about my life right now!

I went to bed KNOWING that I am doing everything I am meant to be doing right now! It’s an incredible feeling to say the least! I made space for it all to manifest by following my joy and intuition and prioritizing my energy over the last year. I couldn’t have predicted ANY of the things that I am currently doing! It has all come to me as I’ve recognized the divinity of the timing for people and situations to be placed on my path and started saying YES to what shows up! I’ve given up knowing the HOW for the kind of life I want to live and the impact on the world that I’ve set the intention to make and I’ve surrendered to all that is. The last year plus of growth has given me the amazing gift of  emphatically trusting my journey! I have seen how things that are meant for me come onto my path, and things not meant for me leave without drama. 

My awareness and perspectives have expanded by leaps and bounds. I have been pushed out of my comfort zone so many times that it’s getting to be my norm. When I find myself getting comfortable, I get nudged to venture even farther out. It hasn’t always been comfortable. I have had times where it has felt very easy, and times when it has felt so difficult that I’ve spent the day crying. I’ve been forced to grow in big ways and to become the person who has the confidence and ability to do the things I’ve been guided to do. I’ve taken on projects that were not planned, and have grown close to people I’ve just met. I’ve gotten better at getting out of my own way, and am really good at listening to the now easier to hear whispers of my spirit. I now know that only good things come from following them. I am no longer interested in chasing or forcing things. I see how all that is meant for me flows naturally and is usually obvious to me now. I have the hindsight to see that projects that didn’t work out were all for a reason. I needed to meet people and get to a certain place in my own growth to be able to move forward. 

Yesterday I started working one on one with a 19 year old who is autistic, nonverbal and HIGHLY intelligent. He’s an amazing writer, but it takes a lot of effort for him to express what he wants to say. A speech that he wrote got selected to be read at his graduation earlier this year. When I read it, I knew I was supposed to help him write more. I am so excited to work with him and hopefully help him get the words out of his head and onto pages. To say that his perspective is unique and needed in this world is the understatement of the year. He has so much to express and I can’t wait to hear it all!

I also hosted the second class of my Teen Mindfulness Group last night. What an amazing group of kids I get to work with! I’ve known for a while that I am supposed to work with teens. I feel silly now that I was ever nervous about doing it, because I am absolutely LOVING it! I can share so much more about real life things with the teenagers than I can with the 8-12 year old kids that I teach. I am making a difference and that lights me up! I woke up today wanting to start mentoring teens 1:1. I am realizing that my journey has prepared me to give the support and encouragement and insight about life to these teenagers that I would have loved to have when I was their age. 

I love being the person that other people feel comfortable opening up to! I have had so many amazing conversations with people who are relieved that they finally have someone who they can talk to about all things spiritual that they don’t feel like they can talk to other people about! As I have opened up more, I have noticed how people then open up with me. Connection with other humans fills my heart like nothing else. I can’t ever get enough of it. I am on a path to free myself from the confines of the program and I am always happy to share what I have learned, so that I can help others do the same. 

People ask me “what do you do?” I say, “how much time do you have?” I do what my spirit guides me to do. Right now, that means that I teach mindfulness to children, teens, and adults, I connect with people deeply and let them know that they are not alone, I coach people to follow their dreams and to express themselves fully and creatively, I work 1:1 with a teenager who has a lot of things to say, but just needs some extra help saying them, I plan dance parties and get people to drop their masks and live their joy to their healing and alignment, I utilize the powerful healing modality of Dreamtime Healing using Holographic Kinetics to help people heal themselves at the spirit level so that they can shift into alignment and thrive in their lives, I paint and draw and sell my art. I have a LOT on the horizon too. We ALL always have a lot of new opportunities on the horizon if we allow for it. Open your eyes and heart. Pay attention to the subtle whispers of your spirit. Follow your joy and intuition. Pay attention to the signs and synchronicities. Be grateful for all that you have and all that you do, because in a year, your life may look completely different than it does right now. I am learning to savor the moment more. I have learned to find peace in the unknown. I am positively impacting this world. My life is a success, because I am doing what my spirit came here to do. Are you?

Listen to Dirty Heads’ song “Vacation” HERE

If you want to work with me in some capacity, or you’d like to collaborate on a project with me, email me at peacefuljellyfish@gmail.com. I’m always up for new adventures and new connections! 

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The Nothing

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Movies can hold a lot of truths if we look and listen for them. I was only 5 years old when the movie “The Neverending Story” came out, but I remember watching it a lot with my sisters when we were growing up. I missed the lines spoken by the wolf character, Gmork, until last night when my son and I watched it again.

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“GMORK— People have begun to lose their hopes and forget their dreams, so the nothing grows stronger.

ATREYU — What is the nothing?

GMORK — It’s the emptiness that’s left. It is like a despair destroying this world and I have been trying to help it.

ATREYU — But why?

GMORK — Because people who have no hopes are easy to control. And whoever has the control, has the power.

ATREYU — Who are you really?

GMORK — I am the servant of the power behind the nothing. I was sent to kill the only one who could have stopped the nothing.”

We have a nothing that’s been sweeping our world. Our lack of self-love and love for others is the root cause. The manufactured fear that we’re fed through the program reinforces all of the shame, doubts, and insecurities that we carry with us about ourselves and life. Our feelings of nothingness manifest as a void that we are then made to believe can be filled with things outside of ourselves. We buy the new gadgets and we yearn for the new homes and cars and and and, but we still find ourselves feeling like something is missing. We are missing love for ourselves and life. We have lost hope and have forgotten our dreams. We wake up, drive to work, punch in, work all day possibly doing things we don’t enjoy or possible hate, we have lackluster relationships with coworkers because we’re generally unhappy and disconnected from ourselves and we connect with them through complaining and gossip (neither of which leave us feeling good), we go home, eat dinner, maybe spend a little time with friends and/or family, then go to bed. We rinse and repeat this schedule day in and day out until we get to the weekend. Then, we do the work at home that we neglected during the week. Rinse and repeat. Or we live for the fun we have on weekends, and therefore spend the other 5 days of the week wishing we were already at the only 2 days that we actually like. And there we are, wishing away an average of 20 days a month, 240 days a year. In a 30 year career, a person who works the typical schedule of 5 days a week with weekends off may wish away 7,200 days! Yes, THOUSANDS of days spent pining for Saturday and Sunday.

People lose their hope and ignore their dreams and they fall into an energetic trap where they feel stuck and disempowered in the situations and relationships they find themselves in. They forget that nothing is permanent and that CHANGE IS THE ONLY CONSTANT in this reality. They forget that they are the ones that hold the key to their own happiness and satisfaction. We’ve been taught to seek validation and fulfillment from things outside of ourselves. But, everything is an inside job. Everything from our internal world is always being reflected back to us from our external reality. Our thoughts are always creating our reality, often subconsciously though we do have the ability to shift our focus and create our lives consciously.

So what can be done about the nothing, the void? How do we step back into our power and send the nothing packing? We start by remembering who we are- spiritual beings having a human experience, infinite consciousness in human form. We don’t get lost in the program that has us feeling miserable and hopeless. Yes even when we’re made to think that the misery is coming from particular political parties, groups, people or states of the world. In the end, it’s all played out the way that it is to stir the anger, hate, separation of the nothing, because there are powers behind the nothing that feed off of our negative energy. To them, it’s about maintaining a food supply. But the program tries to tell us that it’s about what one person said or another did. In truth, love, compassion, and togetherness is how we prevent the nothing from destroying our world. This comes in self-love and acceptance. This comes in unity. This comes in seeing the divinity of every human, including ourselves, and our apparent worst enemies. It doesn’t mean we have to hang out with people whose energy doesn’t resonate with ours, but we can choose to not direct any energy their way. This comes in seeing, really seeing, the parts of the program that are meant to keep us living small lives and generating more negative emotions. Our awareness is our superpower. Our ability to observe and not react to everything as well as to recognize our ability to control where we direct our vital life force energy are all part of our superpowers.

We recognize the power of our minds and therefore our thoughts. As energetic beings who have the power to create anything we can imagine, we’ve got to start focusing on WHAT WE WANT and not on what we don’t want. I’m not saying that we don’t need to allow ourselves to feel every emotion as it arises and then allow it to pass. I’m saying that we get to choose what we allow to disrupt our inner peace. My inner peace is everything, so if something in my life disrupts it, I change things and make new choices. We get to choose what we pay attention to. We can focus on solutions or problems. We get to decide where our energy will go and therefore what we will cause to grow.

We start living more authentically, and we learn to accept and love ourselves just as we are. From there, we follow our joy. We find reasons to smile and enjoy life every day, not just on the weekends that only take up 2 of 7 days a week. We realize that following our joy is actually the point of this life and in following our joy, we inspire others to follow theirs as well.

If you get nothing else from my blog, please know this….we are powerful beyond measure when we recognize that our uniqueness is our gift and that following our joy and intuition and aligning with our spirit is what we are here to do. Alignment feels AMAZING, and puts us on a trajectory to fulfill our purpose! Everything begins to fall into place from there — the right people, situations, and opportunities. We have to take inspired action on the guidance we receive. Our purpose is going to be something that lifts us up while helping to shift people and the planet into a new awareness and increased expansion.

Some of us have chosen to be the guinea pigs in this lifetime. We’re testing the boundaries by taking leaps of faith and living outside of the status quo and our comfort zones. We’re testing all that’s possible for us and humanity. We’re forging a new path and paving it, so others may follow. What we learn from living life as a giant trust experiment, we can then use to show others examples of what’s possible. It’s the path that I’m currently on. I am grateful to be alive during this pivotal time when so much is shifting. It’s not by accident or coincidence as nothing is. We all have a reason for being here. Each of us is needed.

Life is what we make it. If you want to feel hopeless then focus on every situation that creates those feelings within you every day. But if you want to feel empowered, then think empowering thoughts, feed yourself empowering food for your mind, and start getting comfortable in your own skin in your complete authenticity. We don’t have time to be wishy washy about it. We have to start choosing the better thoughts, telling ourselves the version of the stories that takes us out of the victim and complainer mode. We’ve got to take back our energy and learn to use it wisely. We have to realize the importance of following our dreams if we want more happiness in our lives and the world. When we remember our power and follow our dreams, we cannot be controlled. It’s up to each of us to stand up for ourselves in our own lives if we want to defeat the nothing. We’re much more powerful as a group. It’s time we all rise up!

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Jammie

I LOVE YOU!

I do this ALL THE TIME!! I’ll have the most amazing conversation with someone, and I think I LOVE YOU! A friend will tell me about an act of kindness they felt moved to do, and I think I LOVE YOU! I get encouraging messages from people who are supportive of what I’m doing, and I think I LOVE YOU! I see people dancing like crazy, and I think I LOVE YOU! I see friends who are changing our community for the better, and I think I LOVE YOU! I hear joy in someone’s voice or through their messages about something they’re really excited about, and I think I LOVE YOU! I connected with someone in a hug where our energy just resonated and we were both feeling the positive energy, and I think yes, more connections like this please, I LOVE YOU! The list goes on and on! I always end up with amazing people in my life and on my path and generally if we’ve connected in a deep way, you can be sure that I’ve thought this about you before too! I’ve got love for you too, the reader of this post! I appreciate that you spend some of your precious time reading my words! I’ve got so much love for people and this world!

This way of being isn’t generally taught to us. We’re taught to reserve love for our families and close friends. As a rule, we hold back a lot when it comes to love. We don’t always speak it even when we feel it. We’re made to feel that love is reserved for a romantic relationship that’s ‘going somewhere’, and usually we’re shy about being the first one to speak it for fear of rejection. We’re taught that people must earn our love. Don’t give love freely, because people will take advantage. Don’t tell them first. Never after a first date. Maybe after 1 year. You don’t want to scare them off. You don’t want to come off like you love every person you date. You don’t want to be too easy. You shouldn’t make the first move. Can you relate? So many silent rules about love. You ever wonder why we’re following so many rules? I’m at a point where I’m done with the old rules that have been holding me back from my true expression!

I told people I’ve gone on a few dates with that I loved them. Just loved them as a human and for the role they were playing in my life, the joy they were adding. They’ve told me back. Did it surprise them? Probably. I don’t know. It didn’t really matter. I’ve learned in general that if I feel called to say something to someone, I say it. Often we are messengers for each other. This is the way we find our tribe too, by stepping out of our comfort zones to introduce ourself because we just feel like we’re meant to know a person. We don’t have to know the why, we just have to follow that inspired action.

On the other hand, when I knew someone I was dating was afraid of love, I held my words in to keep him comfortable for maybe 6 months or a year. I felt like my chest might explode if I kept it up so I spoke it. It became stifling. It was such a beautiful moment of truth for me when I told him. It felt very sweet and genuine. For the first time in my life, I wasn’t loving someone to get it back. I didn’t need love from him to be OK. I loved him for him and all of the moments we had shared. He didn’t say it back, but that’s never the point, or shouldn’t be. I knew he wouldn’t and I felt better to say it to speak my truth than to keep him comfortable at my sake. He thanked me. I can still remember the way the sun during the golden hour was lighting up his face. I felt so connected and in the flow with life and my own spirit in that moment.

In this life, the more aligned you become with your spirit, the more love you have for yourself and others. The world needs more love. I feel and think love for others A LOT, but generally say it less. Sometimes it feels like people are closed to hearing it, so I say it in my head or maybe out loud to myself after they leave, we hang up, or we end our messages. I think my head tells me that I might freak people out if I tell them I love them. I also don’t want to add confusion since most people learned all of the same things I mentioned above, and might interpret it differently than I mean it. But really, what bad can come from telling a person that we love them? They leave? If so, they just aren’t ready for the kind of love we’re bringing to life these days. That’s OK, and it shouldn’t stop us from love. I work to be more open-hearted with love while maintaining boundaries. I’m getting braver all the time. I used to have a hard time loving people and found myself feeling more loving towards animals. But, I can seriously say that I love people now! I love their raw humanness. I love their ‘flaws’. I love their unique quirks. I love seeing them smile and laugh. I love seeing them open up and cry. And I love the feeling I get when I share an experience with someone and think I LOVE YOU!❤️

I gotta read this book already! Everything I’ve seen come from it resonates so deeply with my spirit!

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All the Friends

How do we break past old programming and ways of being as a human race? We question everything, we follow our intuition and joy over societal norms, and we stop placing each other in rigid boxes.

My tribe has grown so much in the last year that it still amazes me. The people that I am blessed to call friends are some of the best people on the planet, I am sure of it. Some of those friends are men, some are women, and some don’t identify as one gender or another.

I have always had male friends. I’ve never seen anything wrong with men and women being friends. In fact, my male friends provide me with much-needed grounding energy in my life. I think insecurity is what fuels the notion that men and women cannot ‘just be friends’, especially when one or both have wives, husbands, or otherwise romantic partners outside of the friendship. When a relationship is strong and desired by both people, no friendship outside of that relationship is going to cause issue.

I’d like to pose that the notion that friendships outside of our romantic partnerships can’t exist in a healthy way is an extremely outdated viewpoint that really limits us in our human experience. Relationships of all kinds are what grow us and expand our awareness the most in this life. If we get wrapped up in rules that were created to keep us separate and living small lives, then it will be more difficult for us to step into our full power and become the people that we came here to be. It’s time to bridge the gap between all genders, and more importantly all humans. We’re not going to get there by taking sides and proclaiming ourselves as part of some group smaller than the human race as a whole. Division in solution is not the way to true change.

Assumptions usually don’t have any merit. In the book, “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel-Ruiz, he states the importance of not making assumptions about anyone or anything. Let’s stop assuming that a man and woman hanging out means that they’re dating. Let’s stop placing importance on labeling connections. Does it really matter what other people are doing in the grand scheme of YOUR life? Rather than assuming something, we can ask questions to gain clarity. We need to realize though that some things aren’t any of our business and should be of no concern to us. The only business we need to be concerning ourselves with is our own. Speaking of which, humans can be gossip factories at times using speculation about other people’s lives as a means to connect with each other. This kind of relating is a sign that we’re lacking true, authentic connection with ourselves and others. When we cultivate a deeper connection, no one else’s business is of interest to us anymore. In fact, one of the ways you can lose my interest completely in conversation is to start talking to me about another person’s business. If you’re concerned about what’s going on with another person, I would ask you to go to them directly. I have enough of my own business to tend to, plus I can’t speak to what is truly going on with any other human but myself.

Our perspectives are so unique to us and our own experience that we each see everything through a lens of our own awareness (level of consciousness), experiences, insecurities, and self-imposed limitations. This means that what we perceive is only true for us and our own reality. Our minds would be in a constant state of overload if our brain didn’t have the ability to block out a great deal of outside stimulus from our conscious awareness. But, because our minds function this way, we each perceive different things as we move through the world. You and I could walk down the same street at the same time of day, and we will each notice different things. Our experience will be different even though we are doing the same thing. This is because our brains are sorting through all of the stimulus coming in, and only allowing perception of the things that hold significance for us specifically to get through. We have to understand that everyone has their own perception and is therefore experiencing their own reality. It’s as if we are each experiencing our own simulation game. So what is true for you, is not necessarily true for me. This is why siblings can have extremely different childhoods even when they grew up in the same household. We are each witnessing our own version of reality.

We are not here to conform and change ourselves to fit in with everyone else. And we are definitely not alive in this pivotal moment of awakening on this planet only to do what has always been done. It’s up to each of us to do our own inner work, so that we stop ourselves from judging and making assumptions about each other.

It would be so limiting if I thought that I had to hold back in my connections with others, because of gender or any other constraints that come from the meat suits that we’re temporarily renting. If I had to stop creating dance events for my community with my friend, because he is a man who is married, my life would be seriously lacking and our ability to lift up our community together would be lost. The intentions that each human has behind the things they do can be energetically felt by everyone around them. When we come from a place of honesty, integrity, and pure intentions, we have the ability to form strong connections with many different people across the spectrum of humanness.

We do not have to worry about our partner having friends with other people if we are secure in ourselves and in our relationship. There is no need to limit our connections in this life for any reason. When we each stand in our own power, we lose the need to conform. We don’t freak out that we’re weird or different than someone else, because we begin to experience the magic of living in our true authentic form.

We don’t have to rely on one person for ALL of our needs. I have come to believe that it’s unhealthy if we do. I have many friends and each one offers me a unique experience in connection. I have a friend that I dance and create with, I have friends that I can talk to about books, I have friends I talk to about all things outdoors, I have friends who I can talk to for hours about all things Spiritual, I have friends I went to nursing school with who understand that chapter of my life, I have friends I worked with in field biology jobs, and I have friends I go on adventures with etc etc etc. The list goes on. Lots of different people filling lots of different and important roles in my life. My point being that no one person fills every niche for me. Every person has come into my life for a reason, and I value each friendship greatly. Everyone brings their own unique way of being and perceiving into my life which cannot be replicated by another. For that reason, each person expands my awareness. Much would be lost if I thought that I couldn’t be friends with whomever I wanted. Because everything is energy and ripples out, it’s not just my life that would suffer, but also the world as a whole. Yes, the connections we form can be that significant.

I will not be fit into a box. I will not allow myself to be type casted in any area of my life in order to make other people comfortable. I played that game long enough. Now I live to make myself comfortable. Now my own inner peace outweighs everything else. If your psyche has trouble accepting that and needs to categorize me in some way, then put me into the category where I march to the beat of my own drum, the free spirit category, the category of people where you never know what to expect, the category of people who make you question everything you thought you knew about life, the category of people who will continue to be friends with whoever the hell she wants without needing to explain any of it to anyone, the category of people who lets you know that it is safe and important for you to be 100% authentically YOU.

I did not come here to be like you. I came here to be me. I did not come here to fall in line with the old status quo, I came to forge a new path. I never agreed that as an adult, I would only be friends with and follow my joy with certain people. I am here to form a bridge between people. We are all here to learn how to love ourselves and everyone else more. Open your mind and expand your awareness, so that you too can experience the freedom that comes from nonconformity. It’s time. We’ve got important work to do HERE AND NOW.

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