We’re All Teachers

Truth. I haven’t always taught people to treat me well. I haven’t always taught people how to be a good friend to me. Can you relate?

I can see now how I allowed things to slide and continued to give people access to me even when they weren’t showing me common courtesy. We live and we learn. The awareness of my role in this dynamic is EVERYTHING. We are not victims, but powerful creators.

I experienced a gigantic shift in how I move through the world post training in Holographic Kinetics. I cleared so much that wasn’t serving me and I continue to see the ripples from those sessions. Overall, I now know my worth. I realize that I am worthy of love, because I was born. I know that what I bring to the table is valuable.

I know that I deserve respect and reciprocal effort. I recognize when someone or something is not meant for me, and so I no longer chase things. I see the divinity in everything and flow more, say yes, and surrender.

We are always teaching the people around us how to treat us. Growing up a people-pleaser and peace-keeper has prevented me from speaking my truth at times, because I was more concerned about keeping others happy and not making waves. A deeply subconscious program was running that also cared greatly what other people thought or if they liked me. It’s not that I’m now immune to it all, but my awareness has shifted so that I know that my own peace and happiness come first. I speak up when I need to without worrying if the person will still like me. I know that if I can’t speak my mind in relationship with someone, then I’m better off without them. Our boundary setting and truth speaking only mean the end when a relationship isn’t meant for us. Our people value our truth. Our people know our worth. Our people value what we bring to the table. Our people appreciate our boundaries. Our people are happy when we offer them insight on how they can be a better friend to us. Knowingly or unknowingly, they appreciate our level of self-love and acceptance.

There was a time when I played the victim card all too often. With a new level of awareness comes a new level of understanding of how I have been co-creating every relationship in my life. If I’m not happy with the way things are, I now take responsibility and work to change the way I’m showing up. I know that everything starts with me. Everyone else is just a mirror.

It can be easy to blame others for treating us poorly, but the real growth comes from seeing the role that we’re playing in the dynamic. I used to think that people could read my mind and know what I needed from them. Now I realize that most people aren’t operating at that level. If we don’t let people know how we like to be treated, then we’re really making this game harder on all of us. Not speaking our truth leads to guess work and disappointment. I’m still working on asking for what I need. But we can’t just stop at getting mad at the other person who was just doing what we’ve set up to be an acceptable way to treat us. WE have to step up and become better teachers. My goal is to expect better than before, create better than before, and be better than before.

Check out my friend Jerrett Johnson’s song, “Better Than Before” under The Faculty on Spotify!

If you feel called to heal your own issues that are holding you back and you’re local, consider reaching out to me at peacefuljellyfish@gmail.com for more information on the powerfully healing Holographic Kinetics sessions that I do.

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Dance like EVERYONE is Watching!

Seriously! Set yourself FREE and DANCE however you feel regardless of who is watching!

What are we worried about when we care so much about people seeing us dance and have fun? Like really, what do we think is going to happen?

I think generally we’re worried that people won’t like us. Or that they’ll think we’re weird and talk about us behind our backs. Or that they won’t want to be our friends or be seen with us.

Or….maybe it’s that we’re afraid that if we dance the way our bodies want us to, that maybe we’ll actually be seen. We’ve had experiences that have shown us that it’s much more comfortable for us to maneuver through the world sort of invisible. We’ve gotten so used to shirking away from any attention that we’ve gotten really comfortable with fitting in and remaining small. It’s easier to go unnoticed than to put yourself out there for everyone to judge. Right?!

Here’s the thing, trading in our joy for other people’s acceptance also trades away our freedom. Little by little, one small concession at a time. Eventually, we find ourselves unhappy, maybe even depressed, surrounded by people we don’t feel connected to, doing things that don’t light us up, with bodies riddled with dis-ease.

Our ultimate well-being comes from showing up in this world 100% us! Showing up authentically doesn’t mean dancing for everyone, but it does mean putting our own JOY ahead of what anyone else will think! It means doing the things that light us up the most regardless of who is watching! I’ve had to push myself past my own fears and insecurities to the point that I will dance just about anywhere, anytime. But there are things that are outside of my comfort zone, and it takes courage for me to push past my own perceived limitations and do them.

We’re all human. It takes courage for all of us to do things we haven’t done before, and to be the people we came here to be, but haven’t been before.

I have found that the amazing parts of life come from pushing past my comfort zone. And I’m telling you that in the last year of living this way, I’ve experienced the deepest connections of my life MULTIPLE times! One of those connections alone is worth every ounce of nerves I felt as I stepped into full alignment with my spirit!!

So stop being afraid of what/who you’ll lose if you show up in all of your glory, and start being excited about the path you’re going to be placed on when you align with your own spirit! The people you stand to lose because you dance however you feel or say what’s in your heart, are NOT your people to begin with. Your people will be the ones dancing with you! Your light will not blind or offend your people. Your people will be attracted to your light like a lighthouse shining down on a dark sea. Be YOU! Own your space! Own your light! DANCE however the hell you want to, BECAUSE everyone is watching and they need to see examples of people aligned with their spirit! DANCE ALIGN ELEVATE THRIVE!

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If you’re tired of living with the same limitations, patterns, and behaviors, consider trying a session of Holographic Kinetics with me. You have to be local to see me, but there are practitioners worldwide. Holographic Kinetics is a powerful healing modality based on Dreamtime Healing of the aboriginal people of Australia. You can learn more by visiting http://www.holographickinetics.com.