I do this ALL THE TIME!! I’ll have the most amazing conversation with someone, and I think I LOVE YOU! A friend will tell me about an act of kindness they felt moved to do, and I think I LOVE YOU! I get encouraging messages from people who are supportive of what I’m doing, and I think I LOVE YOU! I see people dancing like crazy, and I think I LOVE YOU! I see friends who are changing our community for the better, and I think I LOVE YOU! I hear joy in someone’s voice or through their messages about something they’re really excited about, and I think I LOVE YOU! I connected with someone in a hug where our energy just resonated and we were both feeling the positive energy, and I think yes, more connections like this please, I LOVE YOU! The list goes on and on! I always end up with amazing people in my life and on my path and generally if we’ve connected in a deep way, you can be sure that I’ve thought this about you before too! I’ve got love for you too, the reader of this post! I appreciate that you spend some of your precious time reading my words! I’ve got so much love for people and this world!
This way of being isn’t generally taught to us. We’re taught to reserve love for our families and close friends. As a rule, we hold back a lot when it comes to love. We don’t always speak it even when we feel it. We’re made to feel that love is reserved for a romantic relationship that’s ‘going somewhere’, and usually we’re shy about being the first one to speak it for fear of rejection. We’re taught that people must earn our love. Don’t give love freely, because people will take advantage. Don’t tell them first. Never after a first date. Maybe after 1 year. You don’t want to scare them off. You don’t want to come off like you love every person you date. You don’t want to be too easy. You shouldn’t make the first move. Can you relate? So many silent rules about love. You ever wonder why we’re following so many rules? I’m at a point where I’m done with the old rules that have been holding me back from my true expression!
I told people I’ve gone on a few dates with that I loved them. Just loved them as a human and for the role they were playing in my life, the joy they were adding. They’ve told me back. Did it surprise them? Probably. I don’t know. It didn’t really matter. I’ve learned in general that if I feel called to say something to someone, I say it. Often we are messengers for each other. This is the way we find our tribe too, by stepping out of our comfort zones to introduce ourself because we just feel like we’re meant to know a person. We don’t have to know the why, we just have to follow that inspired action.
On the other hand, when I knew someone I was dating was afraid of love, I held my words in to keep him comfortable for maybe 6 months or a year. I felt like my chest might explode if I kept it up so I spoke it. It became stifling. It was such a beautiful moment of truth for me when I told him. It felt very sweet and genuine. For the first time in my life, I wasn’t loving someone to get it back. I didn’t need love from him to be OK. I loved him for him and all of the moments we had shared. He didn’t say it back, but that’s never the point, or shouldn’t be. I knew he wouldn’t and I felt better to say it to speak my truth than to keep him comfortable at my sake. He thanked me. I can still remember the way the sun during the golden hour was lighting up his face. I felt so connected and in the flow with life and my own spirit in that moment.
In this life, the more aligned you become with your spirit, the more love you have for yourself and others. The world needs more love. I feel and think love for others A LOT, but generally say it less. Sometimes it feels like people are closed to hearing it, so I say it in my head or maybe out loud to myself after they leave, we hang up, or we end our messages. I think my head tells me that I might freak people out if I tell them I love them. I also don’t want to add confusion since most people learned all of the same things I mentioned above, and might interpret it differently than I mean it. But really, what bad can come from telling a person that we love them? They leave? If so, they just aren’t ready for the kind of love we’re bringing to life these days. That’s OK, and it shouldn’t stop us from love. I work to be more open-hearted with love while maintaining boundaries. I’m getting braver all the time. I used to have a hard time loving people and found myself feeling more loving towards animals. But, I can seriously say that I love people now! I love their raw humanness. I love their ‘flaws’. I love their unique quirks. I love seeing them smile and laugh. I love seeing them open up and cry. And I love the feeling I get when I share an experience with someone and think I LOVE YOU!❤️
I gotta read this book already! Everything I’ve seen come from it resonates so deeply with my spirit!
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