Truth. I haven’t always taught people to treat me well. I haven’t always taught people how to be a good friend to me. Can you relate?
I can see now how I allowed things to slide and continued to give people access to me even when they weren’t showing me common courtesy. We live and we learn. The awareness of my role in this dynamic is EVERYTHING. We are not victims, but powerful creators.
I experienced a gigantic shift in how I move through the world post training in Holographic Kinetics. I cleared so much that wasn’t serving me and I continue to see the ripples from those sessions. Overall, I now know my worth. I realize that I am worthy of love, because I was born. I know that what I bring to the table is valuable.
I know that I deserve respect and reciprocal effort. I recognize when someone or something is not meant for me, and so I no longer chase things. I see the divinity in everything and flow more, say yes, and surrender.
We are always teaching the people around us how to treat us. Growing up a people-pleaser and peace-keeper has prevented me from speaking my truth at times, because I was more concerned about keeping others happy and not making waves. A deeply subconscious program was running that also cared greatly what other people thought or if they liked me. It’s not that I’m now immune to it all, but my awareness has shifted so that I know that my own peace and happiness come first. I speak up when I need to without worrying if the person will still like me. I know that if I can’t speak my mind in relationship with someone, then I’m better off without them. Our boundary setting and truth speaking only mean the end when a relationship isn’t meant for us. Our people value our truth. Our people know our worth. Our people value what we bring to the table. Our people appreciate our boundaries. Our people are happy when we offer them insight on how they can be a better friend to us. Knowingly or unknowingly, they appreciate our level of self-love and acceptance.
There was a time when I played the victim card all too often. With a new level of awareness comes a new level of understanding of how I have been co-creating every relationship in my life. If I’m not happy with the way things are, I now take responsibility and work to change the way I’m showing up. I know that everything starts with me. Everyone else is just a mirror.
It can be easy to blame others for treating us poorly, but the real growth comes from seeing the role that we’re playing in the dynamic. I used to think that people could read my mind and know what I needed from them. Now I realize that most people aren’t operating at that level. If we don’t let people know how we like to be treated, then we’re really making this game harder on all of us. Not speaking our truth leads to guess work and disappointment. I’m still working on asking for what I need. But we can’t just stop at getting mad at the other person who was just doing what we’ve set up to be an acceptable way to treat us. WE have to step up and become better teachers. My goal is to expect better than before, create better than before, and be better than before.
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