You are NOT Stuck!

Aside from writing here, I also have a You Tube Channel where I post videos on various topics as they come to me.

I posted this video about how we are never truly stuck with anything in our lives several months ago.

Today, during meditation, I got the inspired idea that I should post a link for that video here on my blog.

I trust that it will reach whoever it is meant to reach. Click on the links below to access the video and my You Tube Channel.

You are NOT Stuck Video

Peaceful Jellyfish You Tube Channel

I hope you are all having a fantastic day!❤️

Love Yourself to Change the World!

After seeing this image on the Instagram feed of @iambeardgod, I felt prompted to share and write more about it.

If loving yourself is all you do to help the planet, know that it’s enough. If we all love and accept ourselves fully, we show up in the world as complete people with more to give. It allows us to connect with people and our environment in a more complete way. If you skip this step, no amount of donations to charity or acts of kindness will be enough to counter-balance your disharmony. Erase selfish from your vocabulary. Self-love should not be optional, as it is a fundamental part of your foundation. It’s not a good idea to build a house on a cracked foundation. ❤️

Why is it so Difficult to Let Go?

Letting go.  The energy right now is stirring up feelings in all of us that we need to purge the things in our lives that are no longer serving us.  It’s happening with everyone I talk to.  It’s happening in my life.

Thoughts and Patterns

For me, it’s shown up as old feelings, thoughts, beliefs rising up to the surface to be dealt with and healed once and for all.  When I started having these old beliefs and patterns show up again, I got anxious.  I was sure that I had already moved past all of my worries of lack.  I thought I had gotten right with all of it.  Well, this energy swirled up and there it all was again.  My five senses didn’t help either.  My sight told me that my bank account was lower than I felt comfortable.  I was in Hawaii when all of this surfaced and still had to pay for food and activities for the duration.  Luckily for me, I am connected to an amazing community of empaths who were also sharing what they had been feeling, so I knew I wasn’t alone.  And I realized too, that all of this was for a higher purpose, to free me from my mind-created limits so that I can have peace regardless of anything outside of myself.  So, I went within.  I felt my anxiety and I coped with it by meditating daily.  I had stopped for part of my vacation, and clearly, that did not help me.  I sunk into the feelings and realized the truth:  that I am always being taken care of and that I have everything I needed in that moment.  It’s sometimes the moment by moment examination of my life that brings me the most peace.  I stop what I am doing and realize I am OK right NOW.  I have the money I need NOW. I have the roof over my head NOW. I have the amazing family around me NOW.  I began to feel better.

Once I moved through those feelings, I looked at the beliefs surrounding my abundance or lack of abundance and I shot them down one by one.  I knew I had enough resources to take care of us on our trip.  Enough to pay rent and our bills.  I also realized that a late payment here or there because I am on a unique journey of creating a new life for myself is OK.  It won’t kill me.  I won’t be thrown in jail.  I trust.  I trust that I will always have more than I need.  I trust my journey.  I trust that I am always being taken care of.  I know the limitless nature of the Universe and of my life.  I have experienced amazing things that have shown me what we are capable of doing in this life.

Isn’t it interesting though that letting go and releasing is what we’re being taught all of the time, but that it’s one of the most difficult things for us to do?  I know I am not alone in this.  We are always being asked to surrender and release things, people, situations that are no longer serving our highest good.  Sometimes it is so obvious that it feels like the Universe just smacked you on the side of the head to let you know when to let go.  But still, often times we continue to hold on.


It got me thinking about where that sense of holding on comes from, especially if we know that something is no longer for our highest good.  Is it habit? I have found thoughts, beliefs, and behavioral patterns the most difficult things to let go of, to change, to replace.  I am sure that’s due to how our brains are wired and how synapses between neurons are created with repetition.  When we’ve been hearing the same things around money all of our life…like money is hard to come by…there’s never enough money…you have to work hard for money…our brains get wired for lack.  So it takes time and a lot of conscious effort and reprogramming to change those thoughts that became beliefs.  If it took years, sometimes hundreds and thousands back through our ancestry, to create those beliefs, then it’s normal for it to take a while to change them.  And that’s OK.  That’s actually a good reminder for me too.  I have been working to change my beliefs around abundance for a few years, and have just started to really make headway with it this year.  BUT how amazing that I have now seen changes?!?!?!  I got discouraged by my reaction to my bank account, but really, I have come SO far.  I’m one to not always recognize and celebrate my victories along the way.  To me, this is victory!  Living in the flow, at complete peace, as my whole life transitions in ways I can’t even fully see yet, is a gigantic victory.  I think I am going to relish in that truth today.

Thoughts and beliefs aren’t the only things that we are being asked to release.  Everything in our lives is fleeting, there is no constant but change.  We are being asked to let go of jobs that no longer serve us, friendships that no longer serve us, living arrangements that no longer serve us, romantic relationships that no longer serve us, and material items that no longer serve us.  But, much of the time, it is easier said than done.  For me, I notice that in times when I am having trouble letting go, I get a sense that I will never have a job like x, that pays x or I will never have a connection like I had with x again, or what if in the future I need x item, if I get rid of it I won’t have it.  We get ourselves so attached to things outside of us that we start to believe the lies that our minds tell us about them.  Think of how many of us stay in jobs we don’t enjoy because we feel that we HAVE to.  Have you ever experienced that?  Where you feel like if you let that job go, there won’t be another to take its place fast enough…or that the next one won’t pay enough?  I have.  And I know that I am not alone.  We never are in any of our struggles.  We are wrong.  There is always another job.  In fact, if we are miserable, then there’s always a BETTER job out there for us!

I’ll tell you a story that really sheds light on this.  After college, I went away for the summer to study seabirds in Alaska.  When that job ended, I moved with my boyfriend back to my college’s town.  I mostly just wanted to be in that place with the good friends that I had made there who were also staying.  My job wasn’t my focal point, I just needed one to pay the bills.  Of course, I am one that prefers that my work have some kind of positive impact or meaning.  I took a job with a local daycare in their preschool classroom.  I think because of my degree, I *might* have made about $8 per hour.  I have always loved kids and had done some teaching in third-grade classrooms as part of the work program at my college.  I was content with this job.  I was grateful to get this job.  Aside from the fact that I was sick for almost the entire 3 or 4 months I worked at this daycare, I had very little support.  As it turned out, it rated low on the scale used to score daycare centers in that area, and I could see why.  Moral among teachers was low.  The student to teacher ratios were higher than they were supposed to be.  When I started, I was the second teacher in the class with mostly 4 year olds, but a few 3 and 5 year olds as well.  The other teacher had more of a primary lead in the classroom as she had been there for a while.  I got my bearings and learned the children’s routine and tried to be a positive influence on the kids’ lives.  (Wow! I just remembered that there was another teacher who would join us here and there and we would have the kids sit quietly and chant ohm! I had forgotten that!)  We were doing our best.  I did a good job.  Parents often commented about the smile that I always had on my face.  Then, sweeping changes were moving through and teachers got uncomfortable.  The lead teacher in my classroom quit one day out of the blue.  I was bumped to lead teacher.  My roster of kids suddenly became overwhelming.  I was on my own.  Still, I did my best.  Mostly, I was a referee in those days saying things like stop punching Tommy and you cannot use the scissors to cut kids’ hair.  Please stop running.  You get it.  I was still making play dough at home and bringing it in.  I was buying workbooks with my own money to teach the kids how to write the letters and their names.  I would go home and cry.  I was stressed. And the owner of the daycare would often tell me that she would relieve me by a certain time in the afternoon so that I could leave the kids with her and start cleaning the classroom, but often, she wouldn’t show up.  I had no other job possibilities on the horizon, so I felt stuck.  I didn’t see a way out, but I was miserable.  With so many kids and so little support, my plans for classroom were difficult to carry out.

Then it happened.  The owner told me she’d come and relieve me from the playground at a certain time, but failed to show up for 1.5 to 2 hours past that time.  It was the last straw.  So, without warning to me or her, I made sure the kids were under supervision and took her aside and quit.  I quit on the spot.  I had never done that before, nor have I done it since.  When my boyfriend got home from work, I told him.  I was nervous about not having funds to pay for my share of the expenses.  I was worried that it would take a long time to find a new job.  But, you know what happened?  I was taken care of, completely.  As it turns out, one of my best friends had just applied for, interviewed for, and gotten a job at a local veterinary clinic, but she had decided that she wasn’t going to take the position and she urged me to call them.  Within a week, I had called them and had an interview, and by 2 weeks, I was in a new job!  That’s how the Universe works!  When we take care of ourselves and we allow ourselves to release a job that no longer serves us, a new job comes our way!


How many times have you known that you needed to end a relationship, but you kept it going anyway?  I think we are all familiar with the thoughts that we’re never going to love someone as much as x, or we’re never going to have the connection that we had with x, or we’re never going to find someone like x.  Is that usually the way it works out?  You break up with someone and you NEVER love again?  No!  Not at all. But boy, when we’re in the thick of it, we sure do believe all of the things that our minds tell us. We believe in the lack of life.  What we need to ask when out minds say those things and attempt to play those kinds of tricks on us is, is this true?  Is this really true?  Am I never going to love anyone again?  Is no one going to love me ever again?  Are the answers to these questions obvious when you ask them while you aren’t in the thick of a break up? The trick is to remember the truth vs what your brain is telling you when shit hits the fan.  The trick is also to trust your intuition over your brain, because your intuition will never steer you wrong, but your brain will try.

As I write this, I get a notification with these timely words:

“Stop returning to people and things that don’t feel good.  There’ll be no need for healing when you learn to cut off the source of your struggles.”

— @sourcemessages on Instagram

Yesterday, I went to one of my happy places in the river to take a dip and cool off.  While floating in the middle of the stream, I asked that all that I am meant to release, be released.  I set the intention that the water would work with the already powerful, swirling energy of the day, and wash away all that I need to let go of at this time.

With the energy of the full moon, and the longest lunar eclipse that just happened yesterday, we are all being asked to examine our lives and step into all that we have been working to manifest.  It is impossible to receive when we aren’t willing to let go of what we have that is no longer serving us.  We need to tell ourselves the truth.  We need to stop glossing over things and settling for less than we want on account of feeling like we’ll never be able to get what we actually want.  What we want is always available to us, we just have to get out of our own way.  We have to stop looking at life from a place of lack with limited money, limited lovers, limited friends, limited jobs, limited material items, and limited experiences.  The only limits that exist in the world are the ones created by our minds.  From experience, when you stop worrying about lack and start seeing all of the abundance in your life, you realize that you’re being completely guided and supported at all times.  It really is true that when one door closes, another opens.

I encourage you to purge all that feels heavy and stifling, and stressful while you feel motivated.  I am once again being urged to purge and declutter my house.  We can all do it knowing that it will clear out the old to make way for the new.  We live in an abundant Universe.

How are you feeling this week?  Have you been sorting through stuff and making trips to Goodwill?  Have you been emotional about all of the old thoughts and patterns resurfacing?  You are not alone.

Thanks so much for reading!  If you liked this post, please like and share it!  Much love!

If You’re Struggling Today, This is for You

I wrote the following on Facebook today for someone I went to school with who is struggling with depression and cancer. It was my response to his post that read, “I’m glad I got cancer. I hope it kills me.” I saw the post before today, but wanted to think about my response before writing it. After writing it, I realized that this is a message that could potentially help more people than the one it was intended for. If you’re struggling with illness or depression or both, then this message is for you. ❤️

I hear your cry for help. I can see your situation both as someone who went through my own depression, then severe illness that almost killed me that had me wishing for death at times, and also as someone who made it to the other side. If you aren’t currently working with a therapist, I urge you to find one ASAP. Having someone listen to you can help in the most unexpected ways. Enlist the help of a family member or friend if you find that searching for a therapist is too daunting. I know it was VERY difficult for me to seek help because my energy was so zapped and my depression left me fearful of talking to new people and going to new places.

From where I am now, it’s almost unbelievable that I was wishing my life away at one time. In my depressive state, I could have never pictured the life I have now. I thought I would always be sick, always be depressed, and that life would always be hard. But from where I am now, there’s nothing farther from the truth.

It sounds as though cancer did not mark the beginning of your depression. You’ve been struggling for some time with it and the cancer feels like the straw that broke the camel’s back. I felt that way too. Life already felt hopeless and then cancer came along and took whatever was left of any hope you might have had for your life, your future. Those are all normal feelings. I worked on an oncology floor in the hospital for the first 2.5 years of my work as an RN. I’ve seen it all. I’ve talked to people who felt hopeless. I talked to people who were doing their best to remain optimistic.

Depression affects a person’s brain in such a way that it’s impossible in the thick of it to see any light in the best of situations, let alone what feels like the worst. You are not alone in your struggles with what you have going on in your life.

For me, my illness showed up after years of ignoring my intuition and not putting myself first and not giving myself the love that I deserved. When you neglect yourself for so long, illness shows up. The bigger the lesson you’re meant to learn, the bigger the challenge that shows up.

My illness made it impossible for me to put myself last anymore. It demanded that I put money and resources into myself. Lots and lots of money and time and effort—-all to myself. I was left with a choice, let myself die (which for me was mentally no longer an option because I had a baby to care for) or fight and do what I needed to do to live.

I chose fight though even with that choice, I had days where I wished it would end and just all be over. It wasn’t like life got easy because I chose to fight. In fact, doing so challenged me to my core and ultimately grew me into the person I am today. And growth isn’t the easy way out. But neither is death. You are meant to be here and regardless of what your mind is tricking you into believing right this minute, you have people in your life who love you and care about you. And from someone who has experienced the suicide of 4 people, I can tell you that the hole you’d leave in the world and in their hearts is a big one.

I know nothing about your diagnosis or what the doctors are telling you about your chance for beating the cancer. But I can tell you that those things matter only minimally.

It is the thoughts you continue to have about the cancer that are causing you so much turmoil, not the cancer itself. I understand that cancer is scary and that it can be terminal, but any illness is also a lesson and can be a turning point in a person’s life. We all die eventually. That is a fact. Whether it’s from cancer or a car accident is fundamentally inconsequential. The end is the same regardless of the means.

I think you have been given an opportunity to examine your life, your thought processes (likely very negative if they’re anything like mine were), and how you have been showing up for yourself (or not), so that you can see that your body is screaming for you to make changes and showing you that you MUST make changes if you want to get to the really amazing life that can exist just past the place of losing your health and almost dying to getting your health back.

My advice would be:

1. Find a therapist if you haven’t already.

2. Start a gratitude practice where each day without fail you write down things you currently have in your life to be grateful for. As small as the fact that you woke up today. On better days, you might write more. Be thankful for things yet to come, like your completely healed body. Say that to yourself every day! I am so grateful that my body is completely healed. Or I am so grateful that I am fully healed body, mind, and spirit. Maybe it sounds crazy, but it works, I’ve done it. Plus, what do you have to lose?

3. Meditate. Sit in silence for at least 5 minutes a day focusing only on your breath. This quiets your mind and shuts off the negative thoughts for the time that you’re doing it. If thoughts come up, it’s ok, just acknowledge them and go back to your breath. Use this as a coping mechanism when the hamsters in your brain are madly running in their wheels. Even if you don’t notice change right away, you will eventually notice.

4. Replace negative thoughts about yourself with positive ones. Instead of, I’m such an idiot for making x mistake, try I’m proud of myself for trying x.

5. Take good care of yourself. Rest when your body needs it. Eat when you’re hungry. Drink when you’re thirsty. Realize that you don’t have to see the whole staircase before you take the next step. If you have to have a procedure done, try not to think past it. Do what comes up without trying to predict the future.

Miracles happen. I’ve seen people who were said to have a year or less to live stop everything and start taking care of themselves and doing all the things they always wanted to do, and prove the doctors wrong. It happens.

We are all mortal. We are all going to die. Most of us walk around as though we’ll always have more time, not doing the things we’ve always wanted to do, and not saying the things we know we should say. Illness is a gift in some ways because mortality is suddenly thrust into your face and you get to figure out really quickly what’s important to you today if you have no tomorrow.

None of us are guaranteed tomorrow. Those without illness are just living the illusion that they’ll live forever. But you and I know otherwise. For me, I’d rather know that truth through struggle than to live in illusion. It makes me do things that make me happy. It makes me put my health first. That’s priceless.

I hope this helps in some way. I would have sent it as a personal message, but who knows how many other people needed to hear this today.

Hang in there. ❤️

Reach out to me if my words resonate with you and you’re feeling the need for extra support in your life right now. Perhaps Joy Coaching makes it sound like you have to be in a joyful place to benefit from it, but in fact, my whole intention of it is to show people the beautiful lessons in their struggles and to help them move past them to a place of increased gratitude and joy in life. I’m hoping that using my experience can help others in a way that shortens the time they need to learn the lessons that their body is trying to teach them. I can be reached at

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Watch Matisyahu sing the acoustic version of “One Day” HERE.

A Night of Inspiration

Last night, my son and I went and saw his favorite band, Imagine Dragons live.  The tickets were his birthday present this year.  As a bonus, Grace Vanderwaal was opening for them.  I love singer/songwriter-type music and Grace, so I was excited! Little did I know how touched I would be by the entire show.

Grace Vanderwaal

As I wrote about Grace in my Instagram post (you can follow me at peaceful.jellyfish) earlier today, “If you’ve never heard of Grace Vanderwaal, her music career started and blew up when she got the golden buzzer on America’s Got Talent when she sang and played ukulele for a song she had written herself, “I Don’t Know My Name”.  Grace went on to win the competition.  She was 12 years old at that time.  My son introduced Grace to me last year when he showed me her performance of “I Don’t Know My Name”.  I cried.  I’m not sure why, but when I see her perform, I cry.  I cried last night.  Maybe it’s because her soulful voice and lyrics are much beyond her years and strike a chord in me, or maybe it’s because I love the way she followed her bliss to learn the ukulele and sing.  Maybe it’s a combo of both.  I am in awe of Grace.  She’s now 14 years old and she’s opening for bands like Imagine Dragons for two sold out shows in Los Angeles.  She felt a calling to learn the ukulele and sing and she pushed to have her parents get her a ukulele against their judgement.  She did not listen to people who questioned her dreams.  She did not stop at just learning how to play the ukulele, but went even further by competing and winning a national talent competition.  How’s that for determination and bravery?!  And at TWELVE YEARS OLD!!  We can all learn a lot from Grace.  I am so grateful to have seen her live.  She’s a beautiful old soul.”

Imagine Dragons

Next up was Imagine Dragons.  I was moved to tears several times by what the lead singer, Dan Reynolds, had to say.  You could feel the genuine love pour from his heart as he spoke about issues such as equal rights and support of the LGBT+ community, not allowing our minds to be put in a box and instead seeking freedom for ourselves, and also about the problem we have in this country of making depression a taboo subject.  Wow.  To say the least, his compassion was touching, especially given the fact that I, too, hold these issues close to my heart.

Here is a video of what Dan had to say regarding depression: (it comes in between the music). I am so glad that I happened to be recording when he said this, so that I can share his very important message with others who need to hear it.



If you’ve been reading along on my blogging journey of almost a year, then you know that I’ve spoken about my own history with depression.

What Dan had to say last night reminded me of how far I’ve come. He made me think back to my years of depression with a lighter heart. I realized that while I don’t feel as much of the stigma associated with my history of depression, that there are others out there who do. The people currently struggling with depression need those of us who have been there and gotten through it to speak out. We need to show them that they have nothing to be ashamed of, and that more people close to them than they can even imagine have been affected by severe depression and have come out on the other side, the side with the light at the end of the sometimes very dark tunnel.

Please join me for a Facebook Live July 23, 2018 at 0900 PST USA on my Peaceful Jellyfish Facebook Page.

I am going to share more of my story about how my severe depression, suicidal ideation, and also the depression and suicide within my group of friends and family has impacted my life.

Catch the replay of my FB Live video HERE!

I would love it if you could join me!

As I have said before, though our journeys may look different, we are all human and so we all struggle with the same emotions and baggage. At the heart of it all, we are all the same, none “better” or “worse” than the next.

Tonight, I dug a little deeper into Dan Reynold’s history and found that he has been struggling with the pain of an autoimmune disease for years and has finally gotten his health back. It made sense then that he joyously ran around the stage in just shorts, so grateful to be alive and no longer in pain. Dan and I share the connection of a past filled with severe depression, chronic illness, and pain.

I don’t think an understanding deeper than that can exist between two humans.

Can you also relate? How comforting is it when you hear that others have been through what you are going through?

Please share your own story in the comments below or email me at, because I’d love to connect with you!

I also discovered that Dan is Mormon which makes it even more impactful that he speaks so strongly of equal rights for the LGBT+ community. Up until quite recently, the Mormon church as a whole completely shunned people who were LGBT+ so that many were forced to leave their families behind after being disowned, or keep their orientation a secret and marry someone of the opposite sex. Many young people have taken their own lives because the stress of losing family and/or living against their heart was too much for them to handle. I was happy to hear Dan speak out. We all deserve equal rights.  We all deserve love.

If you enjoyed this post, please like and share it! Also, please pass on to anyone you know who may benefit from hearing mine and Dan’s messages regarding severe depression in our lives. Thank you!



The whole Universe is expanding. We are all learning, growing, and expanding. Whether we recognize and enjoy it as it’s happening or whether we resist the expansion or try and control the rate of expansion, expansion will always happen. We are all expanding as we are meant to. We all expand at different rates. And that’s OK. The divine lives through each of us in the perfect way to expand consciousness. Expansion is inevitable. Resistance and suffering are optional.When you embrace the expansion or growth, it’s like you find a key to a whole other world. You begin to be aware of how your thoughts create your reality, so you realize the power you have to create your life. And then the fun begins. Life starts to get really exciting.

The people and situations in your life have not been placed there on accident. There are no coincidences. People are placed on your path as you are ready for them, as they can help you wake up and expand, and not a moment before. What I have to say and what I bring to someone’s life is exactly what they need and are ready for, even if they don’t realize it. Many people are sent into our lives to help wake us up. We are all meant to wake each other up to the limitless potential that is within each of us.

Expansion is not usually a comfortable process. In fact, it can be quite uncomfortable by nature because it pushes us out of our comfort zones and works to break down our egos. Breaking down the ego can be a painful process, because we hold it as our finite identity. But it is not. The ego bases all of its knowledge on our past experiences, so it develops ideas about what it safe or unsafe based on the past. We are not our minds and the thoughts we think. We are the divine manifested.

My expansion through my illness was VERY uncomfortable. In fact, as I was going through it, I frequently wondered “why me?” I wanted to be healthy again. I wanted to be able to do the things I had always been able to do. But, even in the discomfort, my illness pushed me to become a nurse, and through my sickest time, I weaved in and out of doctors’ offices and classrooms at the local community college. My challenge lined me up on the path I was meant to take, and it grew me.

Beyond a big challenge like illness, I find that for me, being in relationship is one of the fastest ways for me to grow and expand. Yes I can learn the same things on my own, but I have seen being in relationship speed up the process. The other person provides a mirror to reflect things I like about myself and things I still haven’t dealt with in myself that I don’t particularly like. It brings up everything that needs healed in me. And that’s not always an easy thing to navigate. When you unconsciously experience a difficult relationship and you can’t see the lessons you are being taught, it can feel very hard. It can break you down in a way like no other. But when you set the intention to heal your old wounds and move past your old patterns, the Universe guides you to be with someone who will show you where you’re still getting hung up and provide you with enough space from the person so that you can see the truth in the situation and work out the issue without reacting as if it has anything to do with the other person. It’s never about the other person. It’s always about ourselves and what we need to learn. This process can feel tough, really tough, because the person and their actions can trigger our most wounded parts of ourselves. I’ve been learning to recognize when I’m being triggered and I try to not react in that moment. But I’m human, and I still react without thinking sometimes and then have to apologize for it later. But that’s how we learn. We make mistakes sometimes until we can recognize what’s happening. I’m learning to release my perfectionist tendencies and be OK with doing my best in each moment.

I believe that all relationships aren’t meant to last forever, but they’re all meant to teach us valuable things about ourselves and how we’re moving through the world. Do we like how it feels to move through the world as us? Do we need to make some changes, because we don’t like how it feels? Have we built walls to protect us from the outside world that are hindering our ability to give and receive love? THAT’S where the work lies. It does not lie in trying to change other people or have them fit the mold we have in our head for them. We have to trust that we are perfect for them in the moment and they are perfect for us. This goes for every kind of relationship we have, including the ones with our children. Of course, while I believe that abusive relationships are showing us how we are ultimately abusing ourselves, I do not advocate staying in those situations.

In true Universe fashion, this message popped up for me as I was thinking about this topic today:

“Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment.

There is a hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your own evolution.”

–Deepak Chopra

We are meant to wake up. We are meant to wake each other up. The ego fights to maintain control by giving us a false sense of safety. And example is that our mind might tell us to stay in a job we don’t enjoy, so that we can one day retire and start living our lives fully. But the reality is that regardless of how long we stick with a job we’re not enjoying, we are not promised retirement, or health that allows us to enjoy it. There are no guarantees in life, so listening to your limiting beliefs or the limiting beliefs of others that seem like the safe bet will not always work out the way you’re hoping.

We all have gifts and talents that we are meant to use in this life in big ways. We are meant to grow beyond the walls we have built to protect us, the limits that our minds have created, and the brainwashing inflicted on us by our culture and society. When we realize that all we have control over in this life is our thoughts, our choices, and our actions, we release so much anxiety because we realize that it is not up to us to fix everyone and everything outside of ourselves. When we realize that so much is out of our control, life gets easier and less complicated. We stop trying to stay safe in jobs that are making us ill. We stop trying to control people and situations. Instead, we flow with life and then life flows.

In relationship, when the other person wants to leave, we release them knowing that life always works out for our highest good.  When we lose a job, we can be excited that the Universe is lining us up with something better.  We never lose something that is meant for us. Ever.  Let me repeat that because it has helped me on more than one occasion.

We can NEVER lose something that is meant for us!

This goes for jobs, relationships, material goods etc. Our 5 senses limit us, but the Universe is much more expansive than that. We’ve got to believe and trust before we see the end result that we are after. We cannot wait to believe until after we see it, because then we will stay trapped as we keep ourselves out of alignment with all that we want to attract.  If we keep our minds closed and limited only to what we can see, touch, taste, hear, and smell, we miss out on a lot that our world has to offer.

Don’t be afraid to expand. Yes it’s uncomfortable. Yes it can feel like it’s going to cause us to breakdown (it IS breaking down our Ego). But expansion is part of this human experience. How exciting is it that there is another way to live this life?! We don’t have to keep coming up against the same patterns in our relationships. We don’t have to keep feeling locked away behind walls. We can consciously choose to not only accept our growth and evolution, but we can embrace it knowing that it will lead us to the job we dream about, to the kind of relationship we have been desiring.

Staying within our self-imposed limits and comfort zones might feel like the best option, because we are more comfortable there. We think we know what to expect there. We think we have more control there. But what I have found is that staying within these bounds and allowing fear to control my decisions has never led me to the places I want to go. From the looks of things, it’s not working for the people around me either.

If you want more in life than what you have had so far, it might be time to leap out of your comfort zone. Otherwise, if you keep doing what you have always done, you’ll continue to get what you’ve always got. The only guarantees in life are our birth and death. Life is so short. I believe we should all be making the most of it.

How is your life trying to expand/grow you? Are you resisting the changes or embracing them?

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My Adventure into Reiki and Joy Coaching

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After experiencing the healing energy of my optometrist, his wife and daughter a few years ago (yes, my optometrist and his family are AMAZING people!), I began to be urged to pursue training in energy healing of some kind, so that I could have that same ability to make people feel better.  As I began to speak of this to friends and family, multiple people mentioned Reiki by name.  Then, throughout 2017, I was getting message after message in various forms to become a Reiki Practitioner, which I took as a sign, so I worked to get my Reiki I and II certifications. Upon working with my life coach, doing some free-form writing, and focusing on my passion for life, the words Joy Coach were born.  And thus I was sent catapulted into a new life, closer and closer to following my soul’s purpose.

I believe that aside from being a way to wake us up, that we experience the challenges that we do, so that we can triumphantly overcome them and use our experience to help other people.  Sometimes helping other people is an active role, and sometimes helping can mean following our bliss to living our best life and showing others what is possible.  It’s why I started this blog.  To connect, and share, and show other people that they CAN heal and get their life back.  In fact, after a big, overwhelming challenge like chronic illness, you have the ability to get an even better life back than you had before you got knocked down, because with newfound health after illness comes immense, newfound joy and gratitude for the things that you used to take for granted.

What is Reiki?

Reiki is a form of energy healing that came into existence in the 1920’s in Japan by Mikao Usui. Broken down, Reiki (pronounced ray-key) is Rei = universal and Ki = Life energy.  So essentially, Reiki is the life force energy that flows through everything.  Everything in our Universe is made of energy, including you and I.  It’s our limited five senses that perceive things as either solid, liquid, or gas.  Reiki is something that is passed down from Reiki Masters that can be traced back to Mikao Usui.  As someone attuned to practice Reiki, I can use a light touch, laying of hands method directly on or hovering just above a person, or as a distance healing to anyone anywhere in the world, to act as a conduit for more life force energy to be passed through me to the person, animal, or thing that I am sending Reiki to.  The idea of distance Reiki can be a tricky thing for people to grasp since most of us have spent our entire lives believing only what we can see, hear, touch, taste, or smell.  But there is a lot more to this world that what our five senses can perceive, and that includes the energy.  Various forms of energy healing have been practiced for thousands of years.  Essentially in sending you Reiki energy, I act as a conduit through which energy can be passed, so that your body is able to heal itself.

I have a lot to write yet about alternative therapies that have made my life better since the days when I was very ill from Lyme Disease.  Suffice it to say for now that in my own experience, it has been alternative therapies that have helped me heal the most thoroughly, body, mind, and spirit.  So, I am really excited that I can be a conduit for the healing energy of Reiki for others.

Distance Reiki

I am focusing my efforts on using distance Reiki on the people I work with, because not only is Reiki just as effective if done at a distance as it is in person, but that means that people already working around illness and/or multiple doctor’s appointments can receive Reiki in the comfort in their own home anywhere in the world!  You don’t have to worry about fitting an appointment for Reiki with me in around your busy schedule.  Though it can be beneficial to set up a time when you can relax and really allow yourself to receive the energy.

What can Reiki do for you?

Reiki is a very calming therapy known to help alleviate stress and anxiety, which are things that affect us all.  The energy goes where it is needed by the person, animal, or thing (like plants for example) for their highest good.  It has been shown to help with chronic pain, faster healing after surgeries, to help alleviate symptoms created by chemotherapy, multiple sclerosis, heart disease, cancer, skin problems, broken bones, fatigue, sore throat, flu, insomnia, and impotence, and can help make other therapies more effective.  Reiki has been extensively studied and is showing up in hospitals as the health care industry begins to realize Reiki’s potential for aiding in healing without the side effects that many medications deliver.  (See article about Reiki in Hospitals HERE.)  With my background as a Registered Nurse on an oncology unit, when I first began this journey, I became very interested in how Reiki could be of benefit to those making the transition from this life.  When I began to research, I found countless articles on the subject of using Reiki with hospice patients.  (like the one HERE)  Reiki can also help to raise our vibration during our awakening process.  Reiki energy can remove blocks of energy in our bodies and can clear and strengthen our seven chakras, ie energy centers in our bodies.  Reiki can also clear blocked energy in our auras which can prevent physical ailments before they even occur.

My Experience with Reiki

For myself, I have noticed that as I continue to practice Reiki on myself, I am able to fall asleep faster and sleep better at night.  I also notice stress affecting me less than it used to.  My mind is calmer.  I have used Reiki to effectively relieve my own headaches.  I have also noticed less blocked energy in my heart chakra which has opened me up to feeling more love for myself and others.  My connection with my higher self has gotten a lot stronger, so my intuition and sense of trust in what I receive from it has been heightened.  I find that it has also positively affected my throat chakra as I notice myself speaking up for myself more in situations where I would have remained quiet before.  Recently, I used it prior to being out on a boat in the ocean all day to snorkel with whale sharks, because I am prone to seasickness even with medication, and was surprised to find that I never felt sick!  In many ways, I believe that I was primarily guided to Reiki, so that I could use it to further heal myself.

Reiki energy always helps in some way, and never hurts because it is guided by spiritual consciousness which is always guiding us to our highest good.  As the vessel through which the energy passes, I do not control where the energy goes once I pass it onto you, but can get a lot of information about where the energy is needed during the session.  For instance, I can intuitively pick up on the fact that someone I am treating has a headache, or has had issues with a certain area of their body.  I used distance Reiki to treat someone recently, and was able to pick up on the fact that they possibly had a headache, sinus congestion, and itchy eyes at time of our session.  After the session, the person reported that I had been right, and that their headache, sinus congestion, and itchy eyes had gone away following their session.

Joy Coaching

I am very excited about Joy Coaching!  It’s basically my version of life coaching.  Through my life experiences, I have found that following our joy is what we are here to do.  I know it sounds simple, but in this busy world, it is easy for us to stay so focused on our to-do lists, work life, and family life that we can forget what it is that even causes us joy.  So, along with Reiki, I am also setting the intention to help people along their own journeys to live their lives with more joy.  I encourage you to start thinking about and making a list of  the things that bring you joy in life.  I mean the things that make you feel childlike and most alive in the moment. If we all start doing things daily that bring us joy, we will collectively make the world more joyful!  All we can control in life is our thoughts, our actions, and our response to what shows up for us.  I hope to spread more joy while actively living my joy, and sharing my perspective on life and how to better handle the challenges that many of us face.

The intuitive, joyful guidance I can offer you is much more than just making a list.  I have seen my unique perspective and guidance on a person’s life challenges take weight off of their shoulders and bring new life to their eyes.  I once went to a workshop and in doing the exercises with the person beside me, I shared bits and pieces of my health journey as I offered my perspective on the chronic health issues that his wife was dealing with at the time.  At the end of the workshop he told me that meeting and talking with me had made going to the workshop worth it.  It was an eye-opening experience for me, and it gave me a larger glimpse of my soul’s purpose.  I often experienced the same kind of responses from my patients in the hospital.  Hearing such things as “that’s the best advice anyone has ever given me on this issue.”

I am very intuitive and have a way of knowing what information people need to hear when they need to hear it.  I have been known to send people articles, book recommendations, and links to my blog posts that I just felt urged to share with them, and they have later told me that it was exactly what they needed to read at that time.  Much of the time, after connecting with someone, I begin to say things that really resonate with them that they find helpful, and/or life affirming.  As I have said before, we are all manifestations of the divine in human form.  Often when I write here, I tap more into my higher self and that divine guidance than I do my mind.  I choose to write posts as I am intuitively guided to do so, and I find that the words flow so freely through me that they do not feel like my own.  I write as I go, and edit very little after a post is written.

It is my passion and soul’s purpose to share and use my past challenges to help guide others through theirs.

If you’re feeling the weight of challenges in your own life, or you just feel like you could use some intuitive, joyful guidance and healing…

Reach Out To Me for Distance Reiki Healing and Joy Coaching!  

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I referenced definitions of Reiki as well as the ailments Reiki can help heal in part from the book called “Reiki: The Healing Touch First and Second Degree Manual by William Lee Rand in this post.

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